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Christmas preparations, Christmas Tree, Christmas Wreath, crinkle-crankle wall, Halesworth, Rectory Lane
Term has ended and E managed to attend every day for six weeks! We are so pleased with her and she is very proud of herself too. She has found a really nice group of friends and is starting to relax and enjoy life. She is on track with two out of the four subjects she is studying and just needs to do a little extra work to catch-up in Art. The one subject that needs a lot of work is her Maths but I am hoping that R and I can persuade her to get on with that during the Christmas break. She is going into college next Tuesday for an Art catch-up day which will be a great help.
I have got most of my present-buying done but I haven’t started on the card-writing yet. I must clean the house properly as it has only had a lick and a promise lately and then we can put the decorations up. I must also start baking and freezing food in advance to save time later.
R has one more week at work and then has two weeks annual leave. He had a hospital appointment during the week for a bone-density scan in case he has started to get osteoporosis. This is part of the investigation he has to under-go because of the tumour on his pituitary gland. He has two separate hospital appointments next week, one to see if his adrenal gland is working properly and the other at the eye clinic. We are not sure if the eye clinic appointment is to do with his pituitary problem (the gland is very close to the optic nerve) or whether it is a routine check-up. He has keratoconus (conical corneas) and has to wear special contact lenses.
My eldest daughter Alice, will be coming home on Christmas Eve and will stay until New Year’s Eve. My sister is visiting on Monday and I hope to be seeing my brother sometime soon too. Mum seems to be fine at the moment. I took her Christmas shopping in Norwich on Tuesday and then we did her usual grocery shopping on Wednesday. I will take her to church tomorrow. She hasn’t been for weeks, sadly – I haven’t been able to take her as I’ve had other duties and there is no-one else around it seems, who could do it either. This is very unfortunate especially as she takes great comfort from her church attendance. Mum and Dad, when he was alive, give and gave so much of their time and skill to that church that I am surprised that she can be forgotten so easily. Mum got a phone call a couple of weeks ago from a lady at the church asking if Mum could provide a cake for the Christmas Bazaar. Mum said she was happy to but had no means of getting the cake to the church. She was told that that would be no problem. Someone would come and collect it and as there was a funeral of an old friend of my father’s on the same day as the bazaar, Mum would get a lift to that as well. Mum made two cakes and phoned and left a message to say she had made them. She phoned on the day of the bazaar and left another message. No-one came and no-one has been in touch to apologise. She is 84 and has very little money to spare and very little energy to spare either. I am hoping that she will get an apology tomorrow.
I have become very tired because of the extra driving I have had to do lately. I have driven over 11,000 miles since the beginning of September, spending on average 4 hours a day in the car. The days I take Mum out as well as doing the double journey to Norwich and back I spend nearer to 5.5 hours in the car. I have bought a lot of petrol, filling the tank every five days. Fortunately the price of petrol has gone down recently – at the moment it is 118.9 pence per litre here. I am still trying to do my household chores but I have had to give up my gardening. I haven’t even had time to feed the birds for weeks and weeks. Tiredness has made me grumpy, prone to upset stomachs, prone to tears and a ‘Scrooginess’ comes over me when I have to think about Christmas.
Today, however, has been such a pleasant one. We woke to another clear and frosty morning. R and I enjoyed a relaxed breakfast and then I drove us to Bungay so that we could collect the Christmas wreath I had ordered a week or so ago. We haven’t been out together for some while so this walk through the town made a nice change. R bought a newspaper and we returned home.
E had a hair appointment to go to in Halesworth at 1.00 pm so this time R drove us. We walked with her to the hairdressers and then went to buy some dried ingredients for R’s soup-making from a delicatessen in the Thoroughfare. In most English towns the main street is known as the High Street but in Suffolk many towns call their main street the ‘thoroughfare’. We called in at a café and had coffee and then, as there was still about a quarter of an hour until E would be finished we walked up Rectory Lane back to the Market Place. This is a narrow alleyway that runs behind the Thoroughfare from the north of the town to the south.

A few weeks ago when we had nearly two days of heavy rain, this little river was very close to breaking its banks and flooding the town.

The crinkle-crankle wall. There are twice as many crinkle-crankle walls in Suffolk than in the whole of the rest of the country
Halesworth is quite a busy market town but as you can see, even on a Saturday afternoon less than two weeks before Christmas some peace and quiet can be had.
We returned to our car and almost immediately E joined us looking lovely with her neatly cut and straightened hair. We drove to Holton, a village on the outskirts of Halesworth where we usually buy our Christmas tree at a farm. We quickly found a suitable one and took it home with us.
R will trim a little off the base of the trunk and a couple of the lower branches and then fit it into the tree stand after we have soaked it for a few days. We will bring it into the house in a few days time and then decorate it. This is the first year that Alice hasn’t been here to help us.









It may have been a gentle day, but it sounds like a very busy day to me. I’m happy that things have improved for you and your family of late, let’s hope that the trend continues!
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Thank-you, I am sure things will continue to get better. I hope you manage to get some time off work at Christmas.
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That is a ferocious amount of driving. You have my sympathy.
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Thank-you. My car has just this minute been taken off for a service. No driving for me today!
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I remember when, if my grandmother missed a day at church, the priest came calling to see if she was okay. Times have changed, I guess.
I wonder why they built the walls like that. It must have taken longer and used more brick.
It’s good that your daughter has found friends she feels comfortable with. That’s a good first step towards overcoming anxiety, I would think.
I put my Christmas tree up yesterday and had forgotten how much work it was. My son is coming home from the Air Force on Friday though so I had to get it done. Now comes wrapping presents, which I’m not really crazy about.
I hope you’ll have more peaceful days like this one. Your wreath is beautiful, and it must smell nice too!
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Thank-you Allen. How exciting for you to have your son home for Christmas. Has he been away long? I am always surprised at how long it takes to put up decorations. Never as long as it takes to take them down and put them away again though! The wreath has only got a faint smell but it is very pleasant.
I am told that crinkle-crankle walls economise on the use of bricks as they are only one brick’s width wide. The serpentine shape apparently helps with stability ‘resisting lateral forces’! I know of four of these walls within about thirty miles radius of our house. There used to be another one just outside Halesworth but it was demolished about 15 years ago and a hedge put in its place.
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One brick wide would make them very tippy, so the shape makes sense. My son gets home about twice each year. Right now he’s down in Delaware which is about 6 or 7 hours from here. Next month he could be virtually anywhere in the world.
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That is the trouble when you have loved ones in the armed forces. They could be sent anywhere and be asked to do anything and those at home can only worry and hope and pray and be proud too.
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I ❤ this post dear Clare…
The photographs are truly beautiful, my friend!.
Happy week ahead. Sending you all my best wishes!. Aquileana 😀
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Thank-you so much dear Aquileana! You are so generous and kind. I hope you are having a good and happy week too. Best wishes, Clare x
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Another greatly interesting post, sharing life’s ups and downs and in-betweens.
I hope all goes well with your husband’s health.
I am sorry you feel so exhausted. 11-thousand miles of driving in less than four months would wear anyone down, even you who seem to take things in stride that would make others stagger from the sheer weight and number. Hang in there, Kiddo. Sending you some very positive vibes and prayers. What a time you’ve been through.
Glad that E had six whole weeks of uninterrupted school. Hooray! I’m so pleased.
And that you had a pleasant relaxing day. Your wreath looks lovely.
Now – I get so frustrated when I hear about the difficulties facing your mom, with no-one giving her a ride to church and her making the cakes for nothing. Clare, you must come right out and tell the rector or the appropriate committee – or someone there — that your mother needs their help. Ughhh!
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Thank-you so much dear Cynthia for all your support and kind words. This has definitely been a trying year! Mum’s dilemma is made worse by the fact that she lives many miles from the church she goes to. She and Dad decided to go there because they liked the high church services (the church is known as ‘High Eye’). They met each other in their teens while going to a high church and that is the kind of worship they loved. When Dad died four years ago there were a three or four people living near Mum who were able to take her to church but one of those has since died and another has moved away. The third is a lady who spends a lot of her time staying with friends and relatives or on holiday and isn’t very reliable and the fourth is Bernard who is a film producer/director who also works abroad for at least half the year. He is so kind and whenever he is at home he will give Mum a lift. Mum doesn’t like to put people out and won’t ask for a lift from anyone who she thinks couldn’t afford the petrol
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Ooops! I pressed reply before I’d finished. It is about ten miles from Mum’s house to her church and if she asked someone who lived near the church to collect her they would have to drive forty miles and she would feel very guilty. I take her whenever I can but lately I have had other things I have had to do. She understands and would never make a fuss about it but I feel terrible all the same!
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This is the most amazing post. I love everything about it. I especially love the bridge and that beautiful wreath, but what made it so special is your words giving us a peek into your life. I feel for you–four hours a day in a car. Whew, I’m exhausted just thinking about it. No wonder you’re beginning to feel grumpy. I think it’s lovely that even with being exhausted, you take time for your mom. Thank you for sharing bits of yourself and the beautiful photos. Have a very Merry Christmas and get some rest. 🙂
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Thank-you so much, Elizabeth. I am starting to feel more like a human being already though I’m still very behind-hand with my chores and Christmas preparations. So many people drive that distance and further each day so I shouldn’t make a fuss but it is all new to me. Until September my annual mileage was about 8 or 9 thousand miles as I pootled about the lanes, never in much of a hurry and always avoiding the rush-hour if I needed to go into the city. It’s all change now! I hope you have a wonderful Christmas with your family and I pray that your brother continues to improve in health.
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I hope you’ve set aside some time to recharge your batteries this holiday. We went to school near my parents work which is an half hour drive, no public transport, we got used to our Dad doing all the running around visiting friends, going to and fro to after school clubs etc. Driving is only fun when the roads are nearly empty 😊. Have a happy, healthy 2015 Clare.
Best wishes Charlotte
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Thank-you Charlotte, how kind of you! Now that Christmas Day is over things are less fraught though I still have my mother to visit and take out regularly. My eldest daughter is with us until New Year’s eve and my youngest doesn’t go back to college until the 5th so I should be able to have a little rest. I hope you and your family have had a lovely Christmas and will have a very happy and successful new year. Clare xx
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People can be so thoughtless, asking much and giving little. I believe it is human nature, a nature we should strive to enoble with service, with a turning outward from self to others. Your mother’s service was no less valuable for the neglect of others. She gave, and is the better for giving. My wife was once asked to provide a meal for a mother who enjoyed better health than my wife. It was difficult, physically and emotionally, but my wife was enobled by choosing to give. Warmest.
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Thank-you Roger. Yes you are right and my mother chose to treat the episode in this way even though she still has had no apology. I just felt unhappy about it knowing how little energy and money for ingredients she has. Greetings to you too.
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